"Get the Life you Want" is such a bold statement to make and this book helps you focus exactly on that.
Richard so easily and briefly explains, so that those yet to be trained in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Hypnosis, can understand and play along with him and get results from the multitude of mini 'how to" exercises throughout the book.
The book is separated into 3 Sections:
Intro - Getting to Know Your Brain
1- Getting Over It - e.g. Bad Suggestions, Fear, Bad Memories
2 - Getting Through It - e.g. Habits, Compulsions, Tests
3 - Getting To It - e.g. Exercising, Organized, Making More Money
In the intro he talks about taking Mental Inventory and how the brain works. Richard Bandler on NLP: "When you learn how people think, you
can teach them how to change the way they think." So therefore, "When
you think in a new way, you get to do new things and you get to feel new
things." (pg. xxvii Intro)
" Feelings can't stay still, they are always moving somewhere, in some direction. It doesn't matter where it is, it matters what you do with it. Our feelings are not outside of our control." pg 10-11 how to change your feelings by noticing and spinning in the opposite direction
1 - "Getting over things is often about helping people to learn how to get their minds to let go of things. It means that you put your problems into the past where they belong. We are thinking beings when we think deliberately. When we let our thoughts just happen to us, we lose our personal freedom." pg 96 "Make Good Decisions Exercise" I teach this to my Clients
2 - As he says, a lot of what we learn is extremely useful, however it turns into a problem when the habits we've built are out of control and serve no real purpose. "In order to get through these things, human beings need what I believe is one of the most important elements to get through anything: sheer, unadulterated determination. This is something you can never have enough of." pg 115 is the how to "Become More Determined Exercise"
3 - Being able to get to the things that are important to you is the next step. As Richard says, "Most people I've found in life spend far too much time worrying about their problems and not enough time getting to have fun. Getting to have more fun is an important part of being happy." We all want more of that, do we not? For sure we have duties and obligations and being able to motivate oneself is definitely a useful skill to have. pg 155 "Making Things Fun Exercise"
This book allows you to learn more ways to have control over how you feel so that you have more control over what you do. Thank you Richard Bandler for another great personal and coaching resource!
"If you change the way you think, it changes the way you feel, which changes the way you act." ~ Richard Bandler
Cheers to Your Health,
Glenda
P.S. Great news! Within the next few days, my first Hypnosis Recording will be available!
*all quotes are by Richard Bandler unless otherwise noted
Oct 26, 2012
Do you put Your Expectations on Others?
There was a young lady who posted comments on Facebook recently:
"It's true.
The ppl you thought would never hurt you...will and do!
No quote needed. True Story."
And looking to shed some light, I felt the need to respond...
"I remember I used to have hurt feelings a lot when I was younger. Then a fellow that I worked for, Dr. A. Davidson, D.C., gave me a new perspective. He said to me, 'if you continue to expect other people to behave the same way that you would, you'll continually set yourself up for disappointment because everybody is different.'
Now years later I find in my therapeutic work with Clients that the #1 cause for them feeling hurt is exactly that - they put their expectations on other people, mainly their Family and Friends.
Here's a couple of anonymous examples; 'I feel hurt because no one really understands how difficult it is raising two boys alone', 'I felt hurt when my family was in crisis and my brother never visited and called less than I would have liked.'
As with any issue that a Client comes to me with, whether it's to lose weight, have a better relationship, make more money, be a better Mother, etc., we can trace the beginnings of the issue back to before the age of 7. So then when the Client and I get rid of the old hurt they'll find something very interesting and the next time you see the similar actions (like the ones in the past), you'll just feel neutral about it."
Here's to a more freeing perspective.
Cheers to Your Health!
Glenda
"I remember I used to have hurt feelings a lot when I was younger. Then a fellow that I worked for, Dr. A. Davidson, D.C., gave me a new perspective. He said to me, 'if you continue to expect other people to behave the same way that you would, you'll continually set yourself up for disappointment because everybody is different.'
Now years later I find in my therapeutic work with Clients that the #1 cause for them feeling hurt is exactly that - they put their expectations on other people, mainly their Family and Friends.
Here's a couple of anonymous examples; 'I feel hurt because no one really understands how difficult it is raising two boys alone', 'I felt hurt when my family was in crisis and my brother never visited and called less than I would have liked.'
As with any issue that a Client comes to me with, whether it's to lose weight, have a better relationship, make more money, be a better Mother, etc., we can trace the beginnings of the issue back to before the age of 7. So then when the Client and I get rid of the old hurt they'll find something very interesting and the next time you see the similar actions (like the ones in the past), you'll just feel neutral about it."
Here's to a more freeing perspective.
Cheers to Your Health!
Glenda
P.S. Yes I changed the referential index in the last
paragraph of my response on purpose...
Oct 16, 2012
Great Quote:
"If you want to
change the fruits, you will first
have to change the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible."
— T. Harv Eker: is
an author, businessman and motivational speaker have to change the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible."
With Powerful Hypnosis, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) & Time Line Therapy (TM) we are quickly able to discover and change/eliminate the root of the problem.
Jan 20, 2012
"Theraputic Trance helps people sidestep their own limitations so that they can more fully explore and utilize their potentials."
Milton H. Erickson & Ernest L. Rossi in Hypnotherapy An Exploratory Casebook
These limitations, also known as our beliefs, really hold the power over us.
Richard Bandler says this well,
"Beliefs are what trap most people in their Problems. Unless you believe you can get over something, get through something, or get to something, there is little likelihood you will be able to do it."
Thank goodness for Hypnosis, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Time Line Therapy (TM) which work with the unconscious (subconscious) mind where all Learning, Behaviour and Change happens anyhow, and it's quick, fun and pain-less!
What Limiting Belief would you like to change today?
Cheers to Your Health,
Glenda
These limitations, also known as our beliefs, really hold the power over us.
Richard Bandler says this well,
"Beliefs are what trap most people in their Problems. Unless you believe you can get over something, get through something, or get to something, there is little likelihood you will be able to do it."
Thank goodness for Hypnosis, Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Time Line Therapy (TM) which work with the unconscious (subconscious) mind where all Learning, Behaviour and Change happens anyhow, and it's quick, fun and pain-less!
What Limiting Belief would you like to change today?
Cheers to Your Health,
Glenda
Jun 9, 2011
What are your Favourite Excuses? No Time...No Money...No Energy
Or does it go like this...
"Well I feel this is the course for me but I can't because my husband won't let me" or
"I would've loved to have been a (blank) but my family wouldn't let me" or
"I can't because you see, my kids need me".
Any of these sound familiar?
Here's an Awareness for you:
The only reason that the opportunity is in front of you now, is because you're ready!
When your excuses surface remember that you are avoiding the opportunity that's just presented itself and this is how you are rationalizing it and Not engaging with this experience.
In doing so, you are Giving Your Power Away. This experience is in your life because you created it, unconsciously of course.
Once you commit and put your Time, Money and Energy to the opportunity you want, you'll get tested up to at least 3 times to see if you're serious, so be ready.
We talk about another powerful concept "C & E" in our "Designing Your Destiny (TM)" Leadership & Empowerment weekends.
Cause is greater than Effect
Living on the "C" side of the equation means that you're the Creator and the Cause of things in your life, you know you have the power to choose and you have the Results that you're looking for.
Living on the "E" side means that you've given your power away by blaming everyone - you're "At Effect". You have all the "Excuses" and "Reasons" for: why you're not Who you want to be or why you're not Doing what you want to do or why you don't Have what you want to have!
Which side of the cause & effect equation are you on?
Choose to Accept the Opportunity now!
Cheers to Your Health,
Glenda
"Well I feel this is the course for me but I can't because my husband won't let me" or
"I would've loved to have been a (blank) but my family wouldn't let me" or
"I can't because you see, my kids need me".
Any of these sound familiar?
Here's an Awareness for you:
The only reason that the opportunity is in front of you now, is because you're ready!
When your excuses surface remember that you are avoiding the opportunity that's just presented itself and this is how you are rationalizing it and Not engaging with this experience.
In doing so, you are Giving Your Power Away. This experience is in your life because you created it, unconsciously of course.
Once you commit and put your Time, Money and Energy to the opportunity you want, you'll get tested up to at least 3 times to see if you're serious, so be ready.
We talk about another powerful concept "C & E" in our "Designing Your Destiny (TM)" Leadership & Empowerment weekends.
Cause is greater than Effect
Living on the "C" side of the equation means that you're the Creator and the Cause of things in your life, you know you have the power to choose and you have the Results that you're looking for.
Living on the "E" side means that you've given your power away by blaming everyone - you're "At Effect". You have all the "Excuses" and "Reasons" for: why you're not Who you want to be or why you're not Doing what you want to do or why you don't Have what you want to have!
Which side of the cause & effect equation are you on?
Choose to Accept the Opportunity now!
Cheers to Your Health,
Glenda
Mar 16, 2011
Jan 19, 2011
Is the "How" a Goal will come into your life important & "Obstacles"...do you appreciate them?
Resolution - What does that mean to you?
Commitment? Being firm & determined? Resolve, a promise, a decision to do/not do something?
A Goal - A Result
And once made, do you surrender to the "How"? "How" it's going to happen, "how" it's going to come about, "how" it will show up in your life?
Like we do with a S.M.A.R.T. Goal, once created, set and placed in our Time Line, we don't care about the "How". (Btw, we do this with our Coaching Clients and at our Designing Your Destiny weekend events).
Do we make a Plan - Yes!
Do we Action it - Yes!
For most, do they surrender the "How" it's going to Exactly come into their life - nope!
The Universe will determine the "how", this is called surrendering to the attachment to the goal.
It's like mailing a letter, once you've dropped it in the box, you expect that it will be delivered. You don't necessarily know all the different people involved along the way, the actual route that the truck takes, etc. etc. etc. But you did your part, you made the Plan and wrote the letter/card, bought the stamp, addressed it, opened the mailbox and put it in.
Just stay focused on the Plan and Action it.
Obstacles, you know those obstacles that you usually run into on the way to your goal, well I believe that's the Universe assisting us. Those obstacles provide us with the opportunity to pick up the much needed resources that we hadn't thought about before that we'll need to get to our goal.
Instead of saying to yourself, (with drama), "Oh I guess it just wasn't meant to be" and giving up. Realize that these obstacles have gifts, they're called "Awareness", be thankful and adjust the Plan.
With these "Awareness's'", you realize that there's other Resources/Skills that you don't currently have but you need them if you want to achieve your goal.
Think about it, "if you never got the Awareness's how would you know that you needed something , would you ever move forward?
Ok, so you identify what you need, adjust the Plan and go and get these Resources/Skills.
Now, you can Manage your results and achieve your Goals.
Cheers to Your Health,
Glenda
P.S. If you're looking to expand your Awareness's, come to one of our Designing Your Destiny events - visit us at www.gijohnsonconsulting.com
Commitment? Being firm & determined? Resolve, a promise, a decision to do/not do something?
A Goal - A Result
And once made, do you surrender to the "How"? "How" it's going to happen, "how" it's going to come about, "how" it will show up in your life?
Like we do with a S.M.A.R.T. Goal, once created, set and placed in our Time Line, we don't care about the "How". (Btw, we do this with our Coaching Clients and at our Designing Your Destiny weekend events).
Do we make a Plan - Yes!
Do we Action it - Yes!
For most, do they surrender the "How" it's going to Exactly come into their life - nope!
The Universe will determine the "how", this is called surrendering to the attachment to the goal.
It's like mailing a letter, once you've dropped it in the box, you expect that it will be delivered. You don't necessarily know all the different people involved along the way, the actual route that the truck takes, etc. etc. etc. But you did your part, you made the Plan and wrote the letter/card, bought the stamp, addressed it, opened the mailbox and put it in.
Just stay focused on the Plan and Action it.
Obstacles, you know those obstacles that you usually run into on the way to your goal, well I believe that's the Universe assisting us. Those obstacles provide us with the opportunity to pick up the much needed resources that we hadn't thought about before that we'll need to get to our goal.
Instead of saying to yourself, (with drama), "Oh I guess it just wasn't meant to be" and giving up. Realize that these obstacles have gifts, they're called "Awareness", be thankful and adjust the Plan.
With these "Awareness's'", you realize that there's other Resources/Skills that you don't currently have but you need them if you want to achieve your goal.
Think about it, "if you never got the Awareness's how would you know that you needed something , would you ever move forward?
Ok, so you identify what you need, adjust the Plan and go and get these Resources/Skills.
Now, you can Manage your results and achieve your Goals.
Cheers to Your Health,
Glenda
P.S. If you're looking to expand your Awareness's, come to one of our Designing Your Destiny events - visit us at www.gijohnsonconsulting.com
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